Skinny Bitches

Is being a “skinny bitch” a good or a bad thing?  And what determines if you’re a skinny bitch or not?

Deborah Tolman discusses in her article about adolescent girls’ sexualities that girls begin worrying about how their bodies look to others at an early age.  Girls wonder if they look cute enough or if they’re curvy enough to elicit some response from a cute boy their age.  One of the major concerns of women at all ages is their size.

All around us are advertisements, shows, celebrities, that shape what girls at a young age think is desirable to look attractive.  They are bombarded with two contradicting messages that (1) you should love your body, and (2) you need to look a certain way.  Young girls see men pining over these actresses and models that are simultaneously thin and curvy.  Then they are told to be accepting of the bodies they were born with.  These young girls then resort to what they see the most of, what gains the most attention from men, which is beautiful, tall, size 4 girls.

On the other hand, some girls are naturally very thin.  They see pressure from athletes and curvy actresses to be curvier because that’s what defines a woman – breasts and wide hips.  They know that other girls wish, and sometimes go to drastic measures, to be their size, while these skinnier girls do whatever they can to gain curves.  So then what body type is being favored by society? Who dictates what is beautiful?

Women like the authors of Skinny Bitch, a diet book telling women they need to eat a certain away to be skinny, because being skinny is good.  Then we have artists like Nicki Minaj and Meghan Trainor that denounce being a “skinny bitch,” promoting being curvier.  Both sides of the argument are trying to promote confidence in the female body, but they both explicitly believe that one size is better than the other.  But how do you know which side you belong on? Can a woman not be a size 2 and have large breasts or a big butt?

The best is ultimately to take no side.  Women shouldn’t base their body sizes on what men (or women) want to see from them, or what is sexually appealing to them.  But unfortunately, sex will always play a role in the image of women.

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One thought on “Skinny Bitches

  1. I completely agree that society sends young girls two completely different messages about how they should feel about their bodies. Girls should be taught at a young age to love their bodies. However, I do believe that along with the promotion of women embracing their bodies, they should be taught to be healthy as well. Dove does a great job of promoting not one body type, but many different body types that show what is healthy.

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