The porn effect

After our class discussion on porn, I started thinking about where I have seen the things we talked about in society. At first, I dismissed some of the things that were said such as porn makes real sex unrealistic because of how perfect some porn shoots are. The man usually has a large penis, the woman, large breasts. Each of them seem to be enjoying the experience tremendously. This is shown my the facial expressions usually made by the woman, her loud noises, and the guy talking “dirty” to the female. As I looked into this more and more, I started to see the issue. Porn watchers are using so much of their time watching and pleasuring themselves through porn that real relationships that could possibly be conceived are either nonexistent or not deep intellectually.

One example that I just recently became aware of, is the movie Don Jon that aired in theaters about a year ago. I had never seen the movie until the other day and I was struck by how similar this movie is to what we were discussing in class. The main character is so obsessed with porn that even when he has a beautiful girlfriend who he really cares about, he still gets more pleasure watching the porn than he does having sex with his girlfriend. There’s a scene in Don Jon where one of the main characters sex partners gently breaks it to Jon that the sex they had was, well, not that good. That, actually, she felt like Jon was pretty much masturbating using her instead of his hand. Jon is stunned, mortified and finally completely confused by his sex life. Because, the truth is, he’s not enjoying it much either. Porn is what he really loves. Porn, porn and more porn. Another scene in the movie shows Jon having sex with his girlfriend and after the sex, Jon sneaks into the other room to watch porn so he can finish his orgasm that he didn’t have while having sex. He says that in porn so many positions are used and with his sex it seems very vanilla and boring.

Another example of the “porn effect” as Im calling it, is how easy and accessible porn now is for anyone. Any person who has internet access can watch some type of porn whether it be a one minute clip or an hour video. Porn now comes in so many different categories that it attracts people from all spectrums of the sexual world. Homosexuals can watch homosexual porn, people who are into BDSM can watch porn with it, and people who have fantasies of having sex with their friends mom can have that. Porn brings out the terrible, wrong thoughts that sometimes creep into our heads because it is shown as normal in porn. There is no stopping the ideas that porn can come up with. What is this doing? Inhibiting the world of dating and sex to judge people based off of how close they are in bed to the porn that they invasion themselves taking part in. Also, once the sex does not come close to, or doesn’t give the person the same sexual sensations and pleasures, an automatic switch back to watching porn to feel good about themselves happens. Also, so many people over the age of eighteen are having sex with someone much younger than them because porn has no limits to what is shown.

Porn was once a means for information about the bodies of men and women and how they worked together during sex. People were not used to talking about sex and having it as a part of their everyday lives. During this time, the porn industry seemed to have good intentions in making some of the things they did. Today, the porn industry is all about making money, and not about teaching the youth. The more explicit the video is, the better. The louder the female in the video screams, the better. The necessity of the male ejaculating at the end of the movie only skews our views that the man will always orgasm. This can also be said about the woman, who tend to orgasm way less than men. If a guy who watches porn cannot get the girl he is having sex with to orgasm will he automatically think that something is wrong with him? Will he take different drugs to make sure his performance is better? These are all questions that need to be answered.

Parents try to restrict their children from watching porn as much as they can by installing different programs on their kids computers to block certain websites. This is somewhat beneficial but still reaching a porn related website whether it be pictures or anything of that sort is too easy to reach. Many of us grow up hearing that sex should be with someone that is special to us but then see all of this sex online that totally contradicts this statement. People tend to go by what they see and not what they hear. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. Porn has evolved into a detriment to society and we all need to do something to improve the world in which we live.

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One thought on “The porn effect

  1. I pretty much agree with your entry and I think you make some very good points. When I was younger, not only did I have somewhat of a sex talk, I also had a porn talk with my mom of all people. But she told me exactly what you wrote. The thing with porn as she claimed is that no matter what happens in porn and how pleasing it may be, it can ruin something that is real. Because porn isn’t the real thing, she was concerned that if I watched porn that I would create false hope and everything else that may come with it.

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