We’ve all heard it: Nice Guys finish last. But is that actually true?
Nice guys/girls. The Friend Zone. “I Love you like a brother/sister”.
To some these are bad words. To the ones giving them they are compliments. So what is this obsession with coming in a place? Is there even a competition going on? My answer is no.
In the article above, a girl describes her encounter with a guy she met on Tinder, a dating website. She describes him as sweet, genuine—and she prides herself on knowing people’s intention. Things turn scary though when she accidentally falls asleep while texting him. He calls her terrible names, and cuts off contact with her completely. When she wakes up to these she is reasonably confused, she thought he wasn’t anywhere near this violent.
This is the problem with nice guys. They expect people to sleep with them because they are kind, and when they don’t they completely take away any kindness they had and become a different person. Then, society tells the girl she was being a “tease” by leading him on. And that right there was rape culture.
Rape culture is making excuses for why the rape happened. When society expects someone to have sex with a “nice” person and then blames them when they don’t want to, that leads to guilt. And if that person is under too much guilt then they are forced to sleep with people that they don’t want to. And that’s rape.
So here’s my question to you: What do you think of the nice guy argument? Do you think this idea of nice guys perpetuates rape culture?