Technology and social media are aspects of our modern society that few can live without. Apps and websites such as Facebook, Tinder, and Grindr, make social connecting simple; perhaps too simple. Social media has a major influence on modern hook up and intimacy, and it has changed the way we interact with others. Simply put, social media makes it easier to hook up with strangers and forget about the whole “get to know each other” ordeal (aka dating). In the movie “Sex Drive” a teenager named Ian goes on a road trip with his two friends in hopes of hooking up with a gorgeous girl he met online.
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“Sex Drive” accurately exposes the influence that the internet has on sex. In the movie, Ian drives halfway across the country to hook up with an online girl that he has never met in person. This central theme of the movie highlights the modern-day simplicity of interacting and getting sexual with random people as a result of technology. Tinder is one app in particular that emulates this pattern. On tinder, people indicate a mutual attraction based on physical appearance, often recite sexual pickup lines and largely fabricated tales, and end up having sex. Obviously it does not always work out this cleanly (as shown in the movie) but the potential opportunity for sex with virtually anyone is clearly present thanks to social media.
Social media has strengthened the culture of hookup and this has caused date culture to suffer, especially in college. In Kathleen A. Bogle’s “Hooking Up” she asks a girl named Lisa if college students go on dates. Lisa responded with: “not really, I don’t think they really do that much.” (Bogle 45). Since the advent of social media, guys like Ian who are not necessarily great at talking to girls in person, can use these tools to possibly get lucky.
Social media is also related to Dennis D. Waskul’s article, “Internet Sex: the seductive ‘freedom to’”. Waskul describes the world of cybersex and how text and webcams are used to sexually interact with other people online. This relates to social media’s role in hook up because both use technology as a central node, and people have the oppornity to fabricate tales and manipulate their pictures (or often in the case of cybersex, not provide a picture at all). The disconnect is that cybersexers do not desire to hook up in person.
How large of a role do you think social media has on hooking up? Do you believe that the popularization of hooking up and the decline of dating is a major issue? If so, what should be done about it? How has social media changed the way we perceive or judge other people?