What’s Sex Got to do With Intercourse…… Final Reflection.

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Throughout the semester I learned what sex and society really have to do with each other. Before entering this course I had no idea what I was going to learn about, and at the end I wanted to learn more about sex and society. One concept that really struck my mind was sexual intercourse. Prior to class I thought sexual intercourse involved a woman and a man having penetrative vaginal penile sex. Well I found out that sexual intercourse has way more to it than just two heterosexuals having sex. Prior to this course, I believed the common misconception that sex was between men and women. Majority of people would define sexual intercourse similar to my definition in my opinion. It’s interesting to me that identities and terms that deal with sex aren’t presented to most kids until they reach college. Meanwhile, before this class I would have not seen this issue as a problem in society. Why do you think people in our society lack knowledge about sex, and stroll around like its acceptable?

While throughout the semester we were assigned different reading I made a connection with the article called “Sexual Intercourse” by Kerwin Kaye. In this article Kerwin Kaye goes on to define intercourse as socially determined. Kerwin Kaye states that, Coitus implies that a woman and a man have intercourse until the man achieves orgasm. Furthermore, before entering the class I would agree with coitus that intercourse compacts with a man and a female having sex, but Kerwin Kaye included interesting points. What about more recent terms such as anal intercourse, strap on sex, and oral sex? Anal sex is an act that most likely occurs between men. Strap on sex is defined as a woman penetrating another woman with a toy or dildo, which could be done either anally or vaginally. Lastly, Kerwin Kaye talks about oral sex and I still am undecided on rather not oral sex should be considered intercourse. I still try and answer this question. It seems as Kerwin Kaye information believes that intercourse can involve same sexes or different sexes, but there has to be some form of penetration happening.

Kerwin Kaye concludes by saying that “The point is not to find the single correct definition, but rather see the meaning associated with these terms shift over time and are inherently susceptible to social conflict” (2011). It’s really important to note that sex should only be defined by the people engaging the act. Sex can include a wide variety of intimate acts and definitely transcends gender differences.  A few questions that I have for my audience could be, how do we change the narrative around sex in our nation? I think this is an important question because our nation was built upon Christian values. These Christian values have led us to really have a limited view of the world. If we expand that view to include traditionally excluded groups, we can embrace a more diverse population and enhance the experiences of ourselves and others.

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