It is no surprise that rape culture is prevalent on college campuses in our society. Fifty-five universities are being investigated for rape cases. However, these are not just state universities, they include the more prestigious schools such as Harvard, Princeton and SMU and our very own, Vanderbilt.We leave our homes to come to college, a place where we are supposed to feel safe. Due to the recent football rape case here at Vanderbilt, many girls do not feel as safe as they should.
There is a definite double standard between men and women in the college environment. Kathleen Bogle states designates a whole chapter to provide readers an explanation and attempt to create an understanding for those of us who don’t really get it. So, guys are free to hook up with whoever comes at them (or whoever they go after) while girls have to be cautious to maintain a good reputation, one that does not include the words “slut” or “whore”. Furthermore, we are given standards to live by with no boundaries. Larry, a senior at Faith University, stated that a girl is considered a slut if she sleeps with twelve guys in a short period of time or if she hooks up with five guys in a week, which means a new guy every day. This statement really bothered me because I feel like that is not the least bit realistic. So where do these guys get these obscenely high numbers when being asked what a “slut” is? Do they think that girls are morally corrupt or do they use their numbers for background knowledge to make the estimate? The more important question may be: who are these guys to determine what the definition of a “slut” is? Why can they hook up with large amounts of girls and still be considered a bro? If guys are given the opportunity to define such a harsh term, we clearly have a problem in society. This double standard is very unclear which gives guys more freedom and girls more of an opportunity to be judged. I also found it displeasing that once a girl hooks up with a guy, she is talked about with the “bros” which could possibly place a target on her. A target that calls for boys to stay away from her or one that draws them in. It was interesting that boys who want to hook up look for the “trophy girl”, one that does not hook up often. My question is, if she does not hook up often then why does he think he’s something special enough to persuade her to hookup. Does it make her more of a trophy girl if she turns him down knowing she is just another girl to him?
By interviewing boys and providing statistics, it is known that boys don’t want to date in college. They want to “have fun.” It takes two to tango. Therefore, in the midst of trying to have their own fun they are putting the moves on many girls. In society today, a girl will do whatever it takes to try to get a boy to fall for her, even if that means hooking up. Maybe boys are essentially the start to this unfortunate domino effect. Let’s set up a scenario: A girl sees a guy at a party who she thinks is very attractive, they talk, he uses his sweet talking abilities, they leave and now they are in bed together. By the time the night is over, he’s a bro and she’s a slut?
This video displays the sexual double standard wonderfully.
She explains that this double standard has taken place for a really long time. Even though both a man and a woman are involved in the act, the woman is viewed as promiscuous.
Earlier in the semester, we talked about sexual education programs in school. Many were not efficient and some schools did not have them at all. This woman in the video brings up a very important fact. Many young girls today are told not to be too revealing with their outfits because boys will get the wrong impression. Therefore, they need to be taught more than only abstinence in these programs. As I said, this sexual double standard is really not specific which allows anyone to say mean things. Even girls call girls sluts when they are not particularly taking part in any action that would resemble the actions of a “slut”. This is the time where we need to educate to stop this double standard.
My questions for you: How can we stop this double standard? Do boys instigate it? Why are they given the opportunity to define it? Should Kathleen Bogle have interviewed guys at different universities? Do you think there is any hope to end this double standard?
We have recently learned about the Filipina women’s roles in Lebanon and also the Lebanese diaspora. Many of these women are treated very unfairly and seen as a minority. The women who identify as members of a diaspora culture in lieu of a member of the host nation are subjects of discriminatory treatment based on race. Some diaspora bodies are historically viewed as more desirable than others, which in turn causes them to be more regulated than bodies of different racial and ethnic backgrounds.
The main hierarchies viewed in Lee’s article are the live-in maids and domestic workers. Though Filipina women are seen at the lower end of the spectrum, Lee states that they are also viewed as “smarter, more educated and more professional” than other women who are living in Lebanon. There are many perceptions taken on the Filipina women. They are generally well liked because of their beauty, which has increased their confidence regarding their sexuality; however, any man who is involved in a relationship with a Filipina is looked down on as a loser because no matter what her appearance may be, she will always be known as a maid. Therefore, many of these women are in relationships with migrant men, who are also alone in their country. This concept is sad because these women are beautiful and are hard workers, but they are not accepted in their communities due to social hierarchy.
There are not only women who identify with the diaspora in non-host nations, but also those who identify in a host-society as well. Lebanese women who have left Lebanon find themselves alienated by their homeland. Abdelhady states that Abeer was considered an “outsider” in Lebanon due to homosexuality. It is remarkable that though Abeer knew she did not fit in in her homeland, she did not want to change. She was proud of her sexuality and has found a way to get involved with social issues in New York. During a time when an individual would try to change the way he/she lived, Abeer took her sexuality into her own hands and chose not to change for anyone because that was who she wanted to be.
Though “whiteness” seems to play a racial signifier these days, when it comes to Lebanese culture it does not. It has created the way that individuals view each other in society. I think that whiteness has a ring of normality and freedom too it. For example, the heterosexual white male is the most dominant individual in our society. However, even though these women may have identified as white, they were not free. They were judged no matter how they looked or what their actions were. I think that today whiteness is a separator, though it should not be. It is not a good thing. In today’s society, if a teenage white male or female identify as anything other than heterosexual, there is a large chance that they will be bullied. Whiteness means something in some aspects; however, not when it comes to events that are not dealing with racism. I don’t believe that’s how this world should be. The lebanese should not have a reputation due to their culture just like discrimination in the United States shouldn’t exist.
In certain cases, many women identify as diaspora, which leaves them as a minority. I believe that these women are capable of many great things, like Abeer, who chooses to strive for a change to prevent other women to feel the way she did. I think that certain women will always be regulated differently due to ethnicity because that is how our society is formed. However, there are women who want change, so there is always hope.
Every little girl dreams of the perfect wedding day with a beautiful dress, walking down the isle to the man of their dreams. Little do they know, the struggles and stereotypes along the way to finding their dream guy.
In the college life, “hooking up” is basically all that goes on in this crazy world of our own, called college.