Gossip Girl’s Gender Stereotypes

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What’s sex have to do with… Anastasia from 50 Shades of Grey?

 

Is Grey the only one who wants to have sex in this book? Because he is the one with the most experience, does she still have sexual desires? How do we know this? Or do we even know this?

Anastasia falls in love with Grey because he makes her feel different. He teaches her how to have a sex drive. And she falls right into his trap. Her female desires do appear as the book goes on. She starts to long for him and long for sex.

In this book, he practices BDSM and teaches her. This is an arrangement between two about how they will have sex, usually meaning one being the dominate and the other being the submissive.

I find the sintering because it brings me to wonder about relationships and are there a hidden BDSM act in some relationships. When girls stay in abusive relationships, if it because they did cross boundaries and deserved to be punished. Why did Ray Rice soon to be wife stay with her?

http://abcnews.go.com/Sports/ray-rice-good-spirits-staying-strong-wife/story?id=25371986

In this article she states that she “wants others to stay out of their business.”

Do you think they practice BDSM and the scene in the elevator just so happens to be caught on camera? Or maybe that is pushing it a little to far but I think that in this case, she crossed a boundary so she was punished. Is that not what happens?

What’s sex have to do with …romance?

 

Have you ever been in love? I’m not talking about the love where you exchange ring pop, kiss on the playground, and post pictures with cute captions on social media. I’m talking about falling in love with someone, making love with them and marring that person because you two belong together. Well isn’t that what happens in romantic movies? Two meet and cant resist each other and although they don’t have sex until the end, they do everything in their power to make it to that point.

I connected this to Kerwin Kays “sexual intercourse” article because I feel that sex when it comes to love isn’t just an act. When it’s romantic sex, it’s calling making love. Having sex is natural but making love is a step farther when it comes to sexual intercourse.

In love and basketball, the two main characters are in love. They go through ups and down. The double standard is shown in this movie because the guys has sex with multiple girls just because he is/wants to be the man while the girl saves herself for him.

Here is the YouTube link to the sex scene in love and basketball.

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xduuf4xdEvw

Is this scene cute and romantic because they both obey the double standard? If she had been having sex with other guys, would it still have the same meaning? If he didn’t know how to put on the condom because he does have experience, would this scene still be as special?

 

What’s sex have to do with… my own sex life?

This one is for the females. Do you ever get so caught up in wondering what others will think of you if they knew about your sex life? Will you get that name of being a hoe, or do they have the wrong perspective of who you are and really you’re an innocent girl? Well which is it?

I today’s society we get so caught up in not wanting to be judged and obeying the double standard. The double standard between men and women are for praising the male sexuality and to monitor the female sexuality. Men can have sex with so many people and not get the name “hoe” or “slut” while females have to make sure they have only 1 sex partner because they don’t want to have a bad reputations. The interviews in Bogle’s book helps to explain that guys will respect a girl more if she has a low number is sex partners.

http://battymamzelle.blogspot.com/2014/02/The-Beyonce-Conversation-Black-Women-Feminism-And-The-Presumption-Of-Sexual-Agency16.html#.VH6nI-ktBMs

This is a great picture in encouraging females to fight against the double standard. Control your own sex life. Don’t let society dictate what you do with your sex life. Beyonce does a great job in fighting the double standard and promoting feminism. Her music fights to protect the female decisions to be sexual.

Instead of society understand that a female can control her own sexuality, society in trying to monitor it. Put females in a buddle. Why do we have this double standard? Over the years, has the double standards changed? What can we do to flip the double standard to where females are getting praised for being sexually active?

interracial Romance

You ever fall in love with someone of another race? Or haven’t yet, but really want to? Are you a white guy looking for a black girl? Or a black girl looking for a white guy? Why? Because you have heard all the rumors about what other races can do for you? You ever heard that white guys are gentler and a lot more caring? Have you heard that light skins aren’t loyal and have too many hoes?

What defines a person race? It seems that our society define race by a person’s skin color. People don’t get treated certain ways because of their race, but because of their skin complexion. Race is usually categorized as black, white, or Asian. It is also define by social class education level. This factors are what society uses to judge you. The amount of money someone has defines their race. You ever called a black person white just because they have so much money or act a certain way? They don’t talk like “normal” black people. Doesn’t this effect your view on things?

Kumiko Nemoto’s article, “interracial romance,” explains how and why these interracial relationships occur. Also explains how these relationship cause for false impression because people start to think that racism and discrimination is lessening. That doesn’t seem to be the case. There seems to be a lot more cases still happening in society where blacks and whites are against each other. When events like Ferguson occurs, it causes society to compare black and white punishments. How many white people got off for doing greater crimes, while blacks are getting a greater punishment when they did something that isn’t viewed to be very bad?

In the article is tells us that Times Magazine the “new race of America” is the mixed race. Have you ever heard a white person say that they aren’t marrying someone of another race because they want to keep their race alive? More and more mixed kids are being born each day. This means that pure races are shrinking. Black and white couples seem to me the most observed. But why? One reason is because now, both races have more freedom amongst each other so it’s possible now. Black and white interracial relationships aren’t the only focus. White men are getting partners that are Asian. Asian women are viewed as hyper feminine and subservient.

Why are we more attacked to people of a different race in present day than years ago? Is racism not supposed to exist anymore?

I connected this to the “sex and power” article (NSS) because I think that this is a great example where sex is used to gain/have power over another race. Men who go after Asians because they are stereotyped to being very catering is an example. These men don’t want love. They just want power. You think this is fair? Will he be identified as weak? Having power is all that our society focuses on. We want to be higher than someone else. Having control over someone is what we want and long for. Wanting a white guy instead of a black guy because you think he will praise you is another great example.

I personally have a huge crush on Dirk Nowitzki. He is German and he is married to a black model/ actress.

http://www.sportsgrid.com/nba/dirk-nowitzki-wedding-photos/#0

I am mixed with black, white, and indian and I have a huge crush on a German man who just so happened to have long hair. I have always been attracted to guys of diffent races. I think this is because I am curious about how they treat their lady. This can be the reason why others are interested in other races, because they are tired of the guys of their same race. Ever heard of the “typical light skin”? What does that mean? Well many black chicks don’t want a “typical light skin” because they don’t feel like they must to offer. But when you have rich white girls who don’t need much but an image, it explains why our society is the way it is.

Do you agreee with these statements? Why are these interracial relationship looked down upon? How will these interracial relationship change the future?

What’s Sex Got to Do With… India’s Raw Star?

Just a few days ago, on the Indian show Raw Star, a female contestant in the singing competition was physically assaulted by a man in the audience. The man initially began teasing and taunting the contestant, and when she protested, he stood up, approached the her, and slapped her on the face.

American culture is surely not the only one where women are painted as submissive to men and susceptible to their policing. Power and privilege lie in the hands of men. Gender hierarchies in which women are viewed beneath men aid in the objectification of women’s bodies and the desire of control over said bodies. Male dominance is embedded in cultures and societies across the entire globe, India included.

Many men assume women exist merely to serve them, and when that “service” is unsatisfactory (or in some cases does not even present itself), then the woman is at fault and subject to violent consequences.

Remember the UC-Santa Barbara shooting where a young man went on a killing spree because of his disgust with the women in his life who didn’t freely give themselves to him like they were “supposed to”?

Male dominance and power also connect to issues of morality and social institutions. The man who assaulted the Raw Star contestant claimed that as a Muslim woman, she should be wearing “such a short dress.” We see this rhetoric of using clothing choice or behaviors as an indication of a person’s morality constantly throughout hegemonic society, despite its complete unreliability.

Indian women, like others around the world, are under high scrutiny–unwarranted scrutiny. Men find that they have the right to police women’s bodies, just like the attacker on Raw Star, who told police that he slapped the female contestant to make the point that, “since it makes him so sexually attracted to her, her clothing could ‘damage the brains’ of her other male audience members as well.” (Read: Sounds kinda like “she was asking for it,” to me.)

Do you think that women should be more conscientious of how they are presenting themselves in order to “keep the peace” with men? Have you encountered similar situations while here at Vanderbilt? Is there anything we can actually do to change the mentalities of young men who think like this attacker?