In the second chapter of her book Hooking up, Kathleen Bogle describes the history of how the dominant intimacy script shifted from dating to hooking up. She begins by responding to calls from various media outlets for a return to a more conservative sexual morality, which usually involve condemnations of hookup culture. She points out that dating is also a recent phenomenon, and that it replaced what came before it just as mush as hooking up replaced dating. The point of this chapter is to detail the transitions in intimacy scripts that led to dating, away from dating, and to hooking up.
A double standard is “a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups” (dictionary.com). I completely hate that there is a double standard especially when it comes to genders. Excuse my language but it is bullshit knowing that guys can do one thing and when girls then do it they get scolded or shamed. For our group project, my partners and I looked at gender double standards and there are a good amount. Clearly most people know about the double standards against women more than they do men.
Sally: Justin and I hooked up last night!
Betsy: OMG no way!! R u guys a thing now?
Sally: Idk, he didn’t say anything, but I think he wants to hang out again.
Betsy: Yeah, u guys are probably gonna start talking.
Sally: I hope so!
With the increased use of technology, relationships have gone completely digital; we try to decipher texts, swipe left and right on Tinder, and casually check our crush’s relationship status on Facebook while attempting to avoid judgment from our friends (you know you do this). We form relationships on a database rather than in a diner. Our generation’s views on relationships are less traditional than those from the early 1900’s.