“Guys are just homophobic” and that’s not changing anytime soon

Adolescence is a difficult time for everyone. All young people struggle to find themselves and to define their identity. However, while adolescent females struggle to develop their sexuality and identity in a society where they are expected to sexy but not to have sexual feelings of their own, or rather they are supposed to be sexual objects but not sexual subjects (Tolman 153-158), males also face many difficulties because they are very restricted by a need to protect their masculinity by never appearing too feminine or weak. If boys lapse or deviate from the social standards, they risk becoming a target for unrelenting homophobic harassment. In order to avoid this, most young boys work very hard to convince others of their heterosexuality at all costs.

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Compulsive Heterosexuality within Comic Books

In C.J. Pascoe’s article, “Guys and just homophobic”, the gendered norms in which young boys are raised in are analyzed. He claims that adolescent males are brought up to be homophobic, and that attacks toward actions and behaviors that are not explicitly heteronormative further the attacker’s own masculinity. The article provides multiple case studies of young boys in social settings and Pascoe was able to discern how the male social sphere operated by saying that: “men or boys who do not conform to normative understanding of masculinity and sexuality should be mocked, humiliated, and possibly feared.” But what contributes to this compulsive heterosexuality? How can we stop it? This article will look at the role Marvel has played in shaping the compulsive heterosexual norms of young males, and what steps it has since taken to rebrand itself.

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How do you become a man?

Is getting money and girls the only things that is on a boy’s mind? At what time do guys think about other guys? Is homophobia seen through society or the rap culture more?

The article by C. J. Pascoe “Adolescent homophobia and heterosexuality,” it talks about what it means to be masculine and how fag discourse is created through social binaries. The article explains that part of being a male teenager is being able to joke freely about gay people. The word faggot can be used in many different way. Can be used in a way of calling someone a punk. Meaning that part of being masculine is not being fearful and if a guy is afraid to fight someone, then he may be called a faggot. People use faggot to talk about gay people. Men or boys who do not conform to normative understandings of masculinity and sexuality should be mocked, humiliated and possibly feared (176). Have you ever heard someone say “that’s gay”? Although they are not saying faggot, it has the same meaning but may be directed to an action or an object instead of the person. The “locker room” talk is where society makes the norms for what it means to be a man. Which is to have sex with plenty of girls and get money. If a guy isn’t being “normal”, then he is considered gay or feminine. This results in fag discourse. A fag is the worst thing a guy can be (177). Part of being a guy is to have homophobia. Homophobia is a person’s strong dislike towards those who identify as homosexual. Heterosexuality is considered normal in our society. Males having sex with many girls and getting money are social constructions that define what it means to be a man. The rap culture struggles with homophobia due to the simple fact of trying to please society and reframing from being called a faggot. A male rapper talking about his masculinity is what makes him sell hits and this usual means talking about one night stands with many girls and having money to flash in people’s faces.

I connected this to James J. Dean’s “Straight Men” article that talks about gender, homophobia, and heterosexual identity. The article states that sexist and homophobia practices are two of the central ways that the men project a heterosexual masculinity (246). For a man to secure his identify, he needs to have a homophobic behavior. This means his use of the words “fag.”

Here is an article explaining J.Cole’s use of the word faggot.


Homophobia and the fag discourse is shown in society every day and it is something we have to deal with growing up. My favorite rapper is J. Cole and he presents many examples through his lyrics. “But the truth is, we all the same, but on different teams, but it’s all a game. The objective, tryna score. Hey, you wanna be a man? Yeah I wanna be a man. A man don’t run tellin’ mama everything he see. I ain’t gonna tell. Alright then man. You’re a man now. Okay,” are the lyrics to “Never Told” by J. Cole. Here, you can see how the social norms of society affect men. Here, he is telling what it means to be a man. He is setting the norms. Becoming a man means to play the game (get girls). To his friends, he is showing how much of a man he is, but to the girl being played, she is left heartbroken and her friends will hate him for his actions.

Another example of male homophobia and use of fag discourse would include: “I don’t mean no disrespect whenever I say faggot, okay faggot. Don’t be so sensitive.” His use of very strong language towards homophobia in his song “Villuminati” made many people mad, upset, and uncomfortable. The hip hop culture has trouble dealing with homophobia. Rappers are to focus of what it means to be a man, which is getting money and girls. The use of the word faggot is connected to the word nigger, meaning that they both are harmful but without them, males are perceived as being less masculine.

Even as a female, those type comments make me uncomfortable. I stopped listening to “villuminati” because of the fag verse. It seems really inappropriate. Although I deal with homophobia at times, I don’t believe in harassment or making others feel bad about their sexual identity. Will J. Cole and the rap culture ever overcome homophobia and stop making it a pressing issue? Or is homophobia what makes the rap culture? Can you name one male gay rapper? What does this mean to the future of rap culture?

Sexual Socialization Gone Wrong

“He says ‘I don’t get it, why are you still a virgin at 24?’

He says ‘I don’t believe you, I’ve seen you walk, virgins don’t walk like that’


He asks ‘Why though? No offence though.’

I ask ‘When was your first time?’

He says ‘I was 12’

He says ‘I know what you’re thinking, that’s too young.’


He says ‘She was older than me.’

I ask ‘How old?’

And he says ‘It’s better that the girl is older, that’s how I learnt all things I know’

He licks his lips.

I ask again ‘How old?’

He says ‘I could use one finger to make you sob’


I ask again ‘How old?’

He says ‘Boys become men in the laps of women, you know?’


He says ‘I’d look after you, you know?’

I laugh, I ask for the last time ‘How old?’

He says ’34.’

He says ‘She was beautiful though and I know what you’re thinking but it’s not like that, I’m a man, I’m a man, I’m a man. No one could ever hurt me’.”

  Warsan Shire, Crude Conversations With Boys Who Fake Laughter Often

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What’s Sex Got do With…. Nudes?

So what’s the overall deal with iCloud?

For one, it’s an apple software that allows users to store contacts, pictures, and apps. This feature also allows users, whose devices may have become lost or stolen, to safely retrieve old data. Though, in this particular case, I use the word “safely” very loosely.

Ongoing investigation reveals that group members found ways to tap into people’s iCloud, and thus, retrieve the data saved on particular iPhones. The group essentially took their technological power further, and exposed the iCloud accounts of multiple people. Nude photos quickly surfaced the web, proliferating responses on sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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What’s Sex Got to do With…. Modern Family

Monkey see, monkey do.




Though this is just a silly saying, we are often victim to its truthful dictum. I often find myself going with the trend of the day in my choice of clothing, hairstyle, and even pastimes.

Our culture’s idea about what a conventional relationship is has been expanding for years. This expansion is influenced greatly by what we see in the media: specifically in the TV and movie industry. This is social constructivism: the idea that a dominant group creates knowledge or norms for another. Though this isn’t a bad thing, it can be very limiting especially when one is facing a situation in which they are out of the social norm.

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