What’s sex got to do with…Labels?

Can you remember a time before you were who you are now? A time when society was not telling you who you are, innocuously, through seemingly inconsequential labels? Think about who you are, how you introduce yourself. For most of us, we say something like “Hi my name is X I am a girl/boy, I am gay/straight, I am a student/professor/parent” the list goes on and on, but there is almost always a qualifying label. The great, “I am,” phrase implies that your essence is inextricably tied up with that identity. However, this thinking can be very dangerous because, most often, individuals are not choosing their own labels, but rather are being labeled and then internalizing those labels.

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Downlow Culture: A Necessary Evil?

What exactly is the “down low culture”?

According to an article published at the University of Southern California, down low culture is defined as a culture in which “Men who identify as “straight” but discreetly have sex with other men while
maintaining a sexual/emotional relationship with women. These men do not consider themselves to be gay, bisexual nor do they identify with such sexual labels. Female partners are unaware their men are having sex with other men,thus the term “downlow.”” Continue reading