Double Standards- Reflection

The most influential concept to understanding the relationship between sex and society is the double standards. We make sexual decisions both male and female based off out morals. And theses morals are made though what society’s standards called double standards. There are things that males can do that females can’t do and there are things that females can do that males can’t do. There are more things that females can’t do compared to the things that males can’t do. Males can do just about anything they want. Their sexual activity is encouraged and they are ask to be as sexual as they can. On the other hand, females are asked to stay in a box and not be very sexual because they will be labeled as a “slut” or “hoe”. I find this unfair because females are being monitored by people they could really care less about but because it’s a judgment made by society, it’s a hard line to cross or their reputations will be bad. Do you agree? If so, do you think it is important for a girl to just keep her sex life on the down low?

You think girls aren’t really required not to have sex but to keep their sex life a secret? Will that change things? At the end of the day, it would be wrong for her to say she is a virgin. Or is it? Her lying about her sex life to keep a good reputation shouldn’t hurt anyone right?

If a girls has sex with 12 guys and a guys has sex with 12 girls and these two meet, but she tells him that she is virgin, will that be immoral? I find it fair considering that she has to choose between having no sex life to having one but hiding it.

Sex and society lives off the double standard. People make decisions when it comes to sex based off the double standards. Me being a Christina, I feel as though I’m in a constant compete with the double standard. Am I waiting till marriage or am I not trying to break the double standard code? Race, religion, and culture all help to make up someone’s morals when it comes to sex. Society just seems to push against those morals slightly because at the end of the day, we all (most) want sex. No matter who you are, we all (most) want sex in some shape, size, or form. We all want to be pleased and appreciated. “We all want love.”

Is there a way of breaking the double standard? If not, why do we creep around it? No one wants to be judged but we all want to be happy and make our own decisions so we can have our own identities. Sex and society live off the double standard whether we see it or not.

 

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What’s sex have to do with… my own sex life?

This one is for the females. Do you ever get so caught up in wondering what others will think of you if they knew about your sex life? Will you get that name of being a hoe, or do they have the wrong perspective of who you are and really you’re an innocent girl? Well which is it?

I today’s society we get so caught up in not wanting to be judged and obeying the double standard. The double standard between men and women are for praising the male sexuality and to monitor the female sexuality. Men can have sex with so many people and not get the name “hoe” or “slut” while females have to make sure they have only 1 sex partner because they don’t want to have a bad reputations. The interviews in Bogle’s book helps to explain that guys will respect a girl more if she has a low number is sex partners.

http://battymamzelle.blogspot.com/2014/02/The-Beyonce-Conversation-Black-Women-Feminism-And-The-Presumption-Of-Sexual-Agency16.html#.VH6nI-ktBMs

This is a great picture in encouraging females to fight against the double standard. Control your own sex life. Don’t let society dictate what you do with your sex life. Beyonce does a great job in fighting the double standard and promoting feminism. Her music fights to protect the female decisions to be sexual.

Instead of society understand that a female can control her own sexuality, society in trying to monitor it. Put females in a buddle. Why do we have this double standard? Over the years, has the double standards changed? What can we do to flip the double standard to where females are getting praised for being sexually active?