The Final Post

Hip-hop music in particular has the most influence on mainstream and the younger generation of society. There are equally as many white people as black people that listen to hip-hop so with that being said, it effects all races as well as social classes, which makes it most effective in spreading ideologies. The assertiveness in hip-hop music objectifies women and puts men in the position of power. Some songs directly put down women by calling them bitches and hoes while also referring to them in a sexual manner. Because it is a man that usually makes these songs, he is sending the message that he is better than women so he has the right to degrade them.
Magazines depict the way men and women are supposed to look and act. The ideal masculine man is depicted in magazines as one that is tall, muscular, and heterosexual. You can tell he is heterosexual because he is usually surrounded by women. The ideal feminine woman is usually slender and beautiful with long flowing hair. These images give society a collective image of what a man or woman should look like, which reinforces gender roles and heteronormativity.
Social Media.
Social media helps reinforce multiple ideologies including heteronormativity and the objectification of women. When I scroll down my timeline on twitter at night, a lot of what I see is naked women and them performing sexual actions with other men. By showing such sexual content, it neglects to also include safe sex practices for woman to woman, man to man, and man to women actions. Also, especially in the case of twitter and Instagram, any time something that is not heteronormative is posted, criticism follows. It is really bad on twitter to the point people get attacked for being something other than what society wants them to be.
Television shows.
Television shows are becoming more interactive with things other than the traditional values of society. Some shows makes jokes about very controversial topics, which for some people makes it seem like it is not that big of a deal. On the other hand, sometimes the shows joking about controversial topics brings them to light and allows people to make their own assumptions about the issue. All in all, television is something that everybody watches at some point in life and it is the easiest way to spread common ideas. Sometimes it does not directly address issues; sometimes the issues are subliminal, but either way, the issue/topic still gets talked about.
All of these are a part of the social institution called media. Of all the concepts and topics we covered, media has got to be my favorite one because media plays a role in everything from sexualities to double-standards to sexual assault. The ways the ideologies were created for these concepts is most likely through media because media always projects the popular opinion and the nature of people is to take the opinions of others and make them their own with their own justifications. Media is what helped and is still helping society develop a collective conscious.

“Social Media Is Destroying Our Lives”

To begin rapping up the final blog posts of the semester, I went back to the very first articles we read at the beginning of class to see if anything caught my eye. I was then taken back to the third week of classes to the Huffington Post article entitled “What I’m Reading: Sex, Teens, And Social Media.” After taking the class and reading this article again, so many new ideas are brought to mind especially in the first section. The first section is titled ‘Social Media Is Destroying Our Lives’ and relates significantly to our lives as college students.

Sasha Belenky, the author of the article, brings up many topics that are extremely relatable. First off, she talks about the obsession with sex throughout social media. She talks about how hookup culture is preferred over dating culture, and social media is the reason for a lot of this modern change in sexual scripts. Throughout this specific portion of the article, Belenky quotes Nancy Jo Sales’ article in Vanity Fair entitled “The Bling Ring” that looked at modern day teen relationships. A girl from L.A. described to Sales that “oral is, like, the new kissing” (Belenky). In addition to sex going much farther much quicker, boys pressure girls for nudes extremely often. Applications like snapchat make this incredibly easy for guys to get away with because, supposedly, the picture “disappears.” Of course the receiver can screenshot the snapchat, but the sender gets a notification if the receiver decides to screenshot. But even scarier and more problematic is that recent studies have come out saying that Snapchat has been keeping the photos this entire time. This entails that the photos that were once said to “disappear forever” haven’t at all.

In addition to social media making it easier to have sexual encounters, social media also makes it easier for boys to talk to girls rather than facing them straight up. We all know those people who will only talk to you on social media or text you and won’t confront you in person. Or, even better yet, we all know those people who won’t talk to you when they are sober, but when they are drunk they come up to you and talk to you like you two have been best friends your whole life. This is why social media is such a problem. It is because with the overuse of it, people forget how to have real, live, face-to-face friendships and conversations. This makes people socially awkward, and it makes people nervous talking in social settings. As a girl named Zoe stated concerning boys talking to girls, “They’re definitely more forward to us online than in person. Because they’re not saying it to our faces.” (Belenky).

Social media makes teens in today’s world socially awkward because social media is their life. A group of friends at the mall admitted to Sales that social media is ruining their lives, so Sales then asked why they don’t just get off of it. In return, a girl responded “Because then we would have no life” (Belenky).


Social media is also a competition with whoever gets the most amount of “likes.” Whoever gets the most amount of likes is considered “more popular.” I agree that this idea is true in our society because I have many friends that will delete a post on Instagram if they aren’t getting a lot of likes in the first 5 minutes of the post. I also have friend who will say things like, “oh my gosh, how did she get that many likes on a picture?!” This statement agrees with the idea that likes on social media is a popularity contest because when you see a person with a lot of likes on an Instagram post, for example, you in turn consider them “popular.”

In addition to being a popularity contest, it becomes a sexual contest. A girl named Greta described to Sales that, “More provocative equals more likes” (Belenky). Her friend Padma agreed, stating, “It attracts more guys and then it makes other girls think about doing it just for the attention” (Belenky). I also agree with this ideology because there are many Instagram accounts that are created solely for the fact of posting sexual posts to get a lot of comments from guys. The girls that have accounts like this live off of guys comments to them, in turn making their self confidence solely based off of the male gender’s perception of them. In addition, the majority of boys who comment on these photos would not say their comments to a girl in person, in turn leading to girls obsession with what boys are solely thinking of them, nothing the guys would say to them in real life.

This article relates to ideas we have talked about in class because it relates to rape culture. Yes, social media is destroying our lives, but one limitation of the article is that it doesn’t talk about rape culture. Social media causes many issues with rape and human trafficking because people will start online relationships with each other. Throughout these relationships, they will form a trusting bond without ever meeting face-to-face. When they meet face-to-face, they often realize that the person they thought they were talking to the entire time wasn’t truly that person. In turn, this leads to many rape and human trafficking incidents.

An example of this in our world today is the T.V. show entitled “Selfie”. This show follows the life of Eliza Doolittle, who lives a life with the goal of achieving fame on social media by only posting selfies. She is extremely awkward and struggles making friendships in real life. This show is a perfect example of how social media destroys us. It creates a life obsessed with talking to people over phone or computer, in turn creating teens who cannot interact with people in real life.

Some questions to consider include do you ever think our society will completely “drop” social media? Do you think our society will ever realize what a burden social media truly is and have it deleted? Also, do you think teens in the next generation will be more obsessed or less obsessed with social media than the current generation?

What’s Sex Got To Do With… The Maryville Case?

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In 2012, a 14-year-old girl named Daisy Coleman was raped by her older brother’s friends who were seniors at the time after a house party in Maryville, Missouri under the influence of alcohol; the rape was recorded on one of the boys cell phones. Matt Barnett, the perpetrator, asserted that the sex was consensual, but the story that Daisy Coleman told asserted otherwise.

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When this case was first brought up, it was ignored and Daisy Coleman received a lot of scrutiny from the media and classmates. Because she had “blacked out” around the time that the rape had occurred, many people speculated her claims and labeled her as wild, a slut, etc. Upon the case being taken to court, it was dismissed because Daisy’s claims were not “credible” due to the state she was in, but also for political reasons because Matt Barnett’s grandfather was a trooper for 32 years and a four-term state representative for Missouri.

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The case was closed in 2012, and then reopened in 2014 due to help from The Kansas City star who published a long story on Daisy’s accounts. The story gained national recognition, and the nation was disgusted at how the small town of Maryville, MO turned its back on this young rape victim. This began to spread through social media, and the case was reopened again in 2014 where Matt Barnett pleaded guilty of endangerment.

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The fact that Daisy Coleman was shot down, criticized, and ignored when she first tried to share her story lends to the issue of why women who are raped are often afraid to tell anyone about it. They fear that because they are a woman and were a victim of power based violence and sexual assault, they are insignificant and no one will appeal to their assertions. Without the help of advocates across the country and social media, Daisy Coleman would have had to face shame and a sense of unrest for her entire life.

Why do you think that her claims were so heavily combated by the society she lived in at first even though there was video evidence? Do you think the case would have been ignored without the national outcry from the Kansas City Star’s article? Why do you think it is that Matt Barnett pleaded guilty for endangerment when he was supposed to get charged for rape?

What’s Sex Got to do with…Gender and Instagram?

This Buzzfeed article featured men imitating Instagram pictures posted by women. The article pokes fun at the Instagram photos stereotypically posted by women and includes posts titled “the cozy coffee shot”, “the skinny arm pose and/or the sorority squat pose”, the “eat clean/green smoothie selfie” and more. Even without seeing the actual posts and just reading the titles, one can understand the mockery being used. Although I found this article to be amusing and fairly accurate :), I found it to be an incredibly obvious representation of gender stereotyping and also representative of a heteronormative society that clearly separates men and women in this way.

As we have discussed in class, men and women have different norms in many aspects society. Femininity and masculinity are terms that describe women and men accordingly and behaviors that are perceived to conflict with one’s sex and/or gender are considered abnormal.

The men in this article post these pictures in a way that exhibits themselves in a “feminine manner” and reinforces the differences in gender norms how these posts of men acting or presenting themselves in a “feminine” way is comical and should be laughed at.

This article was actually sent to me by my friend who thought this was extremely funny. Although the post is not particularly offensive or meant to hurt anyone, it does highlight hyper masculinity as it laughs at men doing “feminine things” such as taking pictures with coffee and puppies and “selfies” at the gym. This might be offensive to men that identify as feminine or perhaps homosexual men by mocking these behaviors and pointing out their absurdity with humor.

This article definitely relates to the topics discussed in class and the gender differences that both exist and are reinforced in this society. Social media such as Instagram continues to be a source for these norms and stereotypes to flourish.

What’s Sex Got to do With… Sex Drive?

Technology and social media are aspects of our modern society that few can live without.  Apps and websites such as Facebook, Tinder, and Grindr, make social connecting simple; perhaps too simple.  Social media has a major influence on modern hook up and intimacy, and it has changed the way we interact with others.  Simply put, social media makes it easier to hook up with strangers and forget about the whole “get to know each other” ordeal (aka dating).  In the movie “Sex Drive” a teenager named Ian goes on a road trip with his two friends in hopes of hooking up with a gorgeous girl he met online.

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What’s sex got to do with……? Facebook(or social media in general)

When Facebook first launched, the creators, Harvard student Mark Zuckerberg and his college roommates Eduardo Saverin, Andrew McCollum, Dustin Moskovitz and Chris Hughes, always had some intentions in proliferating the popularity of the site.  The founders had initially limited the website’s membership to Harvard students, but later expanded it to colleges in the Boston area, the Ivy League, and Stanford University. It gradually added support for students at various other universities and later to their high-school students. Facebook now allows anyone who claims to be at least 13 years old worldwide to become a registered user of the website, although proof is not required.


After registering for the site, people are free to post statuses, comment on other people’s pictures, update photos, “friend” other users, receive updates about other user’s profiles, and exchange messages and IMs. As of the first quarter 2014, Facebook had 1.28 billion monthly active users. In the third quarter of 2012, the number of active Facebook users had surpassed 1 billion. Facebook estimates that between 5.8% and 11.2% are fictitious accounts.

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Is social media responsible for the “Hook-up culture”?

The assigned article titled “What I’m Reading: Sex, Teens, and Social Media” by Sasha Belenky really interested me not only with it’s content regarding social media, but also its broader reference to the “hook-up” culture that we addressed in class. The article touches on numerous topics in its content but is consistent on its emphasis on teenagers and this evolving generation and how sex is evolving with it. The article highlights on the impact of social media and how that has been a major vehicle to the changes in sexual norms or expectations.

The article quotes many young teenage girls about their use of social media and most respond with a consistent idea that social media allows for information, pictures, or rumors to be passed around more readily and more often. Because of how easy and rapid it is, the more frequent it seems that teenagers consider taking nude pictures or “sexting.” The more ways it is possible to evolve sex, the more it seems to change and grow. The article also talks about how with all these tools and technology, a “hook-up” culture has evolved. A young girl from L.A. is quoted saying, “We don’t date. We just hook up.” Another teenage girl from New York is quoted saying, “Oral is, like, the new kissing.” The article captures the essence of this generations “hook-up” culture. The article describes this technology as “robbing America’s youth of meaningful, loving relationships” and claims that this culture is “devoid of emotional intimacy.”

I find this article beneficial in terms of its focus on the “hook-up culture” by attempting to define or describe it in terms of how it has evolved with this use of social media and the advanced technology of this generation. A limitation that I feel that the article has is that it does focus much on how social media might be impacting the “hook-up culture” in its juicy and exposing nature. I personally think that the mere essence of social media is to let the world know exactly what you are doing, thinking, eating, wearing, and more. Privacy and mystery seem to be valued much less in our culture than in previous cultures. I feel as though this is something to pay attention to closely because I find it connected to the promiscuity and “forwardness” in regards to sexual experiences of our generation in the eyes of society.

A connection that I made with this article was to another assignment and video from class when we discussed “hook-up culture.” The video of Miley Cyrus’s response to her and Robin Thicke’s VMA performance on the Ellen Show sparked my mind as I read this article because the article itself actually includes a piece about this performance. The article, as well as the video watched in class reveals Miley’s frustration with the negative attention the performance received nationwide. The performance was progressive in its sexual and exposed nature but she claims that it is America that is “so weird about what they think is right and wrong.” She also points out the double standard that exists in our society in reference to the fact that Robin Thicke was not criticized as harshly as Miley was, even though he was an equal part of the risqué performance. The video we analyzed and this article touch upon the influence of media in our generation in that it simply provides for this type of performance to be broadcasted and given attention publicly. It also is an example of how morality in performances and its relation to sex is evolving in this generation and through media like the Ellen Show, we as a nation are trying to make sense of it and grow with it to determine what is or is going to be acceptable or not.


An example that I find relevant to this reading or discussion topic is an image or that I found on my Twitter newsfeed.



This image is not an obvious image that indicates “hook-up culture” but I found it to be personally related to the phenomenon. This image was posted by Common Girl, an account on Twitter, with the caption, “If only times were still like this.” The image shows three pictures that represent a past generation. The pictures above project passion and romance in a way that is not overly sexual. A girl is clothed in a sweater and skirt that appears to be the girlfriend of the boy she is embracing after he played in a football game. It is sweet and affectionate and implies a loving relationship. Another picture in this tweet is the image in the upper-right-hand corner that shows a girl and boy that appear to be dating while the girl sits on the boys lap and he kisses her on the cheek romantically. All of these images suggest a more modest public expression of intimacy and in my opinion appear to represent a more sincere relationship. I think that this relates to the “hook-up culture” discussion because it represents an emphasis on relationships and interest in each other while the “hook-up culture” of this generation is seen as one that has evolved with more stress put on sex and lack of interest in the building of genuine relationships. I find the caption to the image to be indicative of the awareness we have of this change in sex culture from past years. The fact that the twitter user acknowledges this shift in our generation is important because I think it reinforces the casualness of sex that is growing to define our generation in the ways that these readings and this article points out.


A question I would surely ask the reader to ask him or herself would be whether or not you consider this “hook-culture” to be a “real” thing of this generation? Also, if so, are you comfortable with it or think it is something that is beneficial to you personally or our society as a whole?

Do you think that social media is something that has caused this shift in sexual norms or has maybe this shift just become more apparent through the use of and/or social media?

What’s Sex Got do With…. Nudes?

So what’s the overall deal with iCloud?

For one, it’s an apple software that allows users to store contacts, pictures, and apps. This feature also allows users, whose devices may have become lost or stolen, to safely retrieve old data. Though, in this particular case, I use the word “safely” very loosely.

Ongoing investigation reveals that group members found ways to tap into people’s iCloud, and thus, retrieve the data saved on particular iPhones. The group essentially took their technological power further, and exposed the iCloud accounts of multiple people. Nude photos quickly surfaced the web, proliferating responses on sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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What’s Sex Got To Do With… Social Media

IMG_4911Today, social media is a relatively new phenomenon, that, to me, has become a new extension of the social institution of media. A social institution is a faction within society that informs the ways in which we are supposed to perform our social selves. More specifically, they have a huge impact on informing gender roles, sex, and sexuality; whether through punishments in institutions such as the family (mommy punishing you because as a boy you wanted to play with GI Jane instead GI Joe), the reinforcement of hetero-normative images the media continually perpetuates, or the repetition of phrases such as “that’s so gay” that is abundantly seen on social media, which teaches and reinforces homophobia. Social Media is a forum in which it gives people what Dennis D. Waskul would call “The Freedom To”, or in this case, the feeling of a greater inclination to truthfully express oneself because of the false sense of anonymity one gains from sitting behind a computer.  

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