What’s Sex Got to do With…Sexual Subjectivity? (Last post)

To me, sexual subjectivity is one of the most important concepts we covered all semester. Society, in these times, can be such an oppressive and burdening weight but there is something everyone can do. As an oppressed people, they can keep their head held high and let society know that they will not be held down. Nothing will make an attacker madder than pretending like you are too high to be brought down. Sexual Subjectivity changed my way of thinking. Every time I feel just downright shitty about myself I think, “This is what society wants you to think. This is what they need to survive.” I am very privileged to be a cisgender, mainly white female from a middle class family. I am happy to say I live a pretty comfortable life, and whenever I am just down on myself I remember all the women who died for feminism, who have gone through Hell and back just to make sure that I am treated like a human being. Whenever I feel like life isn’t fair I think about the girls who were stolen from their mothers and sold into the sex trade, the women who came to America for an opportunity and instead received harassment from their employers. I did not asked to be born into this chaotic world, but I was so I will do the best with it. I will walk of fame down the street still wearing last night’s outfit , lipstick smudged and eyeliner running down my face. And I will smile in the face of everyone who raises their eyebrows at me. They will lash out, they will call you names but this is only because they are losing you. They can feel their insults bounce off and they will see the cloud of self confidence surrounding you, and then society will know that it is too late, they have lost. Kill them with yeses, smile in their face and let them know that you will not be brought down. I will be proud of who I am, and every action I make because there were women who gave their entire life to make sure that I am able to do this. I will be proud of who I decide to be, and I will be proud of who everyone else decides to be. Because your gender (biological or spiritual), sexual orientation, or identity doesn’t dictate how you should be treated. You should be treated based on the values you have and how you treat other people. So be confident in who you are, because if a man can do it and not be ridiculed then you can too. But please remember men are not the enemy, society is. And I dream of the day I can walk down the street and see happiness and subjectivity on every corner. I wish when I have a daughter she will know that she is safe to do whatever her dreams desire.

What’s Sex Got to Do With Usher?

Usher has imparted many #1 hits unto the world. From “U Make Me Wanna” to “Confessions” to “OMG,” Usher has graced us with not only his voice, but also his softer, more emotional side. However, what happens when Usher switches gears and speaks about his relationship… with a stripper!?

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What’s Sex Got to do With.. Double Standards (FINAL POST)

A double standard is “a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups” (dictionary.com). I completely hate that there is a double standard especially when it comes to genders. Excuse my language but it is bullshit knowing that guys can do one thing and when girls then do it they get scolded or shamed. For our group project, my partners and I looked at gender double standards and there are a good amount. Clearly most people know about the double standards against women more than they do men.

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“Guys are just homophobic” and that’s not changing anytime soon

Adolescence is a difficult time for everyone. All young people struggle to find themselves and to define their identity. However, while adolescent females struggle to develop their sexuality and identity in a society where they are expected to sexy but not to have sexual feelings of their own, or rather they are supposed to be sexual objects but not sexual subjects (Tolman 153-158), males also face many difficulties because they are very restricted by a need to protect their masculinity by never appearing too feminine or weak. If boys lapse or deviate from the social standards, they risk becoming a target for unrelenting homophobic harassment. In order to avoid this, most young boys work very hard to convince others of their heterosexuality at all costs.

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Cultural Appropriation: “You’re Not Good Enough”

The recent discourse surrounding cultural appropriation has many people wondering what cultural appropriation is. According to the author of Who Owns Continue reading

What’s Sex Got to do with … Kim Kardashian

To many people, sex has everything to do with Kim Kardashian. Kim Kardashian rose to fame after her sex tape Continue reading

What’s Sex Got to do With… Touching the Butt?

On any given day, you can just be scrolling down your twitter feed and see tons of posts about school, netflix, food, love, cuddling, and …butts. Big booties seem to be the new obsession of this generation. Continue reading

Please Get Parent’s Permission Before Logging On

I’m just going to put it out there: you shouldn’t care what other people do or try to control their lives. It’s just going to be disastrous. Although this problem is common amongst teens in high school and college, it applies to parents as well.

Tightening the reins on your children doesn’t always make them better people. More often than not, it’ll cause the children to become more rebellious and more likely to break the rules you so gently (read: obnoxiously) laid out on the table. Being a responsible adult entails setting up rules and regulations — it does not mean you should be a dictator over your child or children.

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What’s Sex Got to do With….The Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show


Every year, young girls and women from all over the country wait in anticipation all Fall for the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show to come around. This year it took place on Tuesday December 2nd and will air on television on December 9th. The infamous fashion show is filled with ridiculous outfits, crazy runway walks, concert performances, and stick thin models. Each model has a perfect body that is extremely skinny yet curvy, pretty hair, flawless skin—realistic right? This fashion show, while it may be fun to watch, also puts the wrong idea into the minds of young girls and women throughout the country.

Victoria's Secret Fashion Show, Lexington Armory, New York, America - 07 Nov 2012

While the fashion show is extremely entertaining—not to mention that it is filled with beautiful women, it is extremely demoralizing to women. Not only is it demoralizing, but it also most definitely objectifies women and sexualizes them. It shows women all over the world, and especially young girls, that body image and appearance is all that is important for females. It does not matter if you are an intellectual—what matters is what you look like. The fashion show reinforces the widely speculated idea that men only care about the way a girl looks, but not about her personality, intelligence, or interests. Young girls already are constantly reminded of this everyday through billboards, magazines, television shows (etc…) and the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show comes around to prove that this point is true. We live in a world that currently sexualizes women ALL the time. There is a stigma in current day society that all a girl is good for are her looks. Women are constantly being sexually objectified in advertisements for clothing, perfume, or even for food. This sexualization of women in the media is a huge reason why young girls commonly develop body image issues, eating disorders, and distorted views of themselves. As a societal community we need to change this ideal and show women everywhere that looks are not all that matter—or the only thing that will get you places in life.



Hooking up is a lose-lose for women

In chapter four of Hooking Up, Bogle tackles how the sexual double standard isinfluenced by hook-up culture. While people might assume that hook up culture liberates women and grants them the ability to satisfy their sexual needs without facing judgment, we know that, historically, women’s’ sexual expression will usually be judged harsher than men’s’ no matter what.

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